'Most men are decent': Actor-turned-motivator Anu Aggarwal

My work today is focused on mental health, and I’m pleased to see significant progress for women in the film industry. The government is also doing what it can. However, women in cinema―and in all fields―must be aware of their actions.

Not all men are rapists. Unless a man has serious mental issues, he won’t rape or molest a woman.

Judicial committees and the actions that follow are necessary and should take place. Corrective measures must be implemented, but it’s not fair to blame an entire industry or group for the actions of a few. Regular introspection is essential, and if mistakes have been made, they should be corrected.

I have never come forward with a #MeToo allegation. I’m single and live alone, but I’m always mindful of drawing the line. Being aware of my actions has protected me.

Yes, there are bad apples in every group, but we shouldn’t demean or detest men as a whole because of the actions of a few.

Men are not born rapists, and most men are decent.

Many of my married female friends claim they have achieved success on their own, but I remind them that a supportive husband often played a role―helping with children and household responsibilities. I know what it’s like to come home alone with no one waiting. We should respect men for who they are and what they do.

Let’s strive to live in harmony and avoid hostility for its own sake. That’s how we can build a just and happy society.

Anu Aggarwal is an actor-turned-motivator.

―As told to Anirudha Karindalam